We all hear about practicing healthier communication, why the skills are so important to having better relationships, but if you’re just learning about the more subtle and insidious ways we don’t connect well, where do you start? How do you do it differently – for real? I think it IS about splitting hairs, and getting […]
You know how it is…you are standing there with someone you really care about, and you just can’t hold the eye contact. Or really acknowledge the heartfelt gesture. Or provide the empathy and compassion they need right now. So frustrating, and yet so common. But why is it so hard? As we’ve been talking all […]
With all the talk about giving and receiving empathy and understanding on the podcast this week, it got me thinking about healthy connections in general, because without the safety of a healthy relationship, empathy can’t happen. At least not genuinely and without an agenda – but that’s a blog for another day. I think the […]
We’ve all heard the stories…we may even have our own story of starting out toward a goal, learning something new, then giving up early on in the process because of obstacles and monkey wrenches thrown in. We all have our great “reasons” for not pursuing those dreams. That’s because it felt so darn real, and […]
You know… the stack of papers, the registration, the bills, the closet. That class you wanted to sign up for…and even the workout routine that’s been calling your name. You, like many of us, might struggle with procrastination. You put it off, you get stressed out because you put it off, you make excuses then […]
You’ve been there. There is a conversation, an argument perhaps, and you walk away having not been emotionally honest in the moment. You were perhaps frozen, not able to connect to your thoughts and feelings and so the conversation ended without you doing what you need to do. Think back to some of the moments […]
No, not that kind of surrender! I just want you to think about letting go of CONTROL in your conversations so you can enjoy the meaningful moments more. So you can truly be present for those you really care about and want them to connect with you. This means Stop worrying about what they might […]
All month we’ve been talking about the difference between healthy and unhealthy communication, and how this is the arena where we make or break trust in our relationships. This week’s focus is on how to take the risk to share more openly and honestly, to build connection and emotional trust. There must be a million […]
In order to feel like we fit in anywhere, we first need to embrace our vulnerable, true self. With all its imperfections, regrets and embarrassments. Because, needing acceptance from them, or outside-in, will never fill that unending hole on the inside. Only we can fill that for ourselves. Now, that’s not to say that we […]
Your voice is everything. It’s how you express who you are to the world, which is why it can feel like such a vulnerable thing. If there are wounds in your past where you struggled to have your voice heard, validated and valued it may be hard to feel like you can fully express yourself. […]
