It’s quite the irony. We are told to just stop worrying about things. About the people we love, and just “live.” But for many people this just sounds unrealistic and uncaring. Because if you are a kind, compassionate person, you want good things for them. You want them to be happy. To be healthy. Maybe […]
The crazy irony about the concept of releasing something, which sounds effortless, is that it actually can be quite a bit of work to be able to do. If it wasn’t so difficult, our world would look so different. We would have less conflict, fewer wars, murders, or mass shootings. The need for control would […]
It’s the holidays, and if you celebrate them, you probably have been thinking about, shopping for, wrapping, and giving gifts to those you care about. You choose things you think they may like or need. Well what about you? Maybe it’s time to stop for a moment and think about some gifts you can give […]
It’s that time of year again, with the holidays upon us and the expectations we have – consciously or not – about our loved ones and our relationships with them. We probably experience the same letdowns and frustrations year after year, so why can’t we just let go and let it be? Why do we […]
Genuine love is about acceptance and respect – not control. I know we hate to hear that having “reasonable expectations” from a relationship should not make us controlling. Our needs are valid, and our boundaries solid and healthy. So what’s the problem? Well, the problem is not with what we want and need – the […]
You have no control to change things, and deep down you know this, and yet you may still wish, hope and wonder all the “what If’s”. Things you could do or not do, what they could change to make it better or what It needs to be in the end. Everything would just be so […]
Oh, the things we do under the guise of what I call “anxious caring”, because fear is driving us to want to control the outcome. We can get it all mixed up with having “goals” that we must work hard to achieve, so isn’t this what we are to do? Aren’t we supposed to nag […]
So why do we try to control everything? Why is it harder for some of us than others? Probably because it is just too scary to let go and trust the process, especially if the process has let us down in the past. On the podcast today, I explore how spinning in anxiety can keep […]
Since today is the last day of the decade, it’s a great opportunity for you to take everything you’ve walked through this past year and sift through it, teasing out what you have learned, grieved, changed and created for yourself! You are not the same person you were when the decade started. My loving challenge […]
