One of the reasons we can’t get moving toward what we want is that we can’t handle the reality of possible failure, because the only way we can see anything less than the perfect outcome is that it will be devastating. It will be the worst thing ever, and that’s all our subconscious needs to […]
We all say we want to always be growing, evolving into our authentic self, living our best life. Making that happen, of course can be another matter altogether. I think at the core of all our reasons is fear, keeping us from taking small and large risks that changing ourselves can and will bring. Differentiating […]
Most of us have things we would like to do…changes we would like to make, projects that are just sitting in our mind, or maybe even half-finished projects that are still sitting there awaiting completion. Why is it so hard to just follow through and finish it? Like I talked about on the podcast today, […]
When you think about it, it makes perfect sense. Young children are naturally assertive. A typical 4-year-old exactly what they think, feel, need and need, and they don’t really care too much what you think of that. Their insides match their outsides, of course until we convince them that that is not a safe thing […]
“That’s not true!” or “You’re being too sensitive. I didn’t mean it that way.” You say when a loved one confronts you about something you said or did. Ouch. This is defensiveness in action. Defensiveness is really just about fear. The fear of being “found out” is the phrase…revealing how you are somehow not perfect […]
It’s just so frustrating. You know you want things in your life to be better. To be different. You want your life to finally reflect the real you. But, every time you go to take the next big step you just can’t. You find “reasons” to wait, to put off, to change your mind. Unfortunately […]
On the podcast this week I am talking about the concept of Fear vs Courage, and how important bravery is if we want to live a fuller, more authentic life. I know being fearless sounds fabulous, and how easy it is to cheer the hero on in the epic movie when they are up against […]
What are your defining moments? Those moments where something happened or you realized something and made a pivotal decision for our lives. We won’t live like this again, or we won’t let this happen again, or at least we hope we won’t. Defining moments are filled with strong emotion, with anger and fear as underpinnings […]
This is the time of year where we take stock and decide what we want we may want to change, get rid of or start. On the podcast today I talk about how just getting started and Doing is a great way to get and stay motivated. But one big thing that can stop us […]
It’s hard enough right now not to be anxious about things. The Pandemic. The economy. Politics. Social Issues. Loss. Worry about the future. One of the ways to not pile on right now is to work hard at not focusing outside of ourselves any more than we need to. Specifically, in our close relationships, where […]
