We hear so much about authenticity these days, and even if we think it’s a fad, it’s not. It’s very real, and not going anywhere. Not being our true selves and showing said self to the world is a recipe for anxiety, depression, and acting out in all sorts of unhealthy ways, because we are […]
When you think about it, it makes perfect sense. Young children are naturally assertive. A typical 4-year-old exactly what they think, feel, need and need, and they don’t really care too much what you think of that. Their insides match their outsides, of course until we convince them that that is not a safe thing […]
This month on the podcast we will be diving back into the concept of self-confidence. What it is, what it isn’t and how do we get it, or just enhance it if we just need a few tweaks? I think there are several moving parts to feeling grounded. Confidence doesn’t just “happen”, so let’s look […]
You’ve been there. There is a conversation, an argument perhaps, and you walk away having not been emotionally honest in the moment. You were perhaps frozen, not able to connect to your thoughts and feelings and so the conversation ended without you doing what you need to do. Think back to some of the moments […]
Your voice is everything. It’s how you express who you are to the world, which is why it can feel like such a vulnerable thing. If there are wounds in your past where you struggled to have your voice heard, validated and valued it may be hard to feel like you can fully express yourself. […]
If taking ownership was easy we wouldn’t have to talk about it, fight about it, or go to court about it. If it was simple the world would be a different place for sure! The hardest part is knowing how and where to begin. The first place to start – and the place where most […]
How you got lost. See, you weren’t allowed to be you, because they didn’t know how to honor themselves and therefore could not provide that for you. You may have learned to be what they need instead. You may have not received empathy and understanding, much less healthy mirroring so you could learn to honor […]
You holding out still? Are you waiting till you have enough time, money, or expertise? Until you’re rich and thin enough to tackle it? Holding out for perfect might give you a subconscious form of comfort or safety because you’re not making yourself vulnerable by just pressing play and by just starting and by just […]
Over the years I’ve worked with adults, children, families, couples and groups. It has taught me so much about individual struggles, relationship issues, and just basic humanity. I am honored that these folks let me in to be a part of their precious journey. I think that journey is literally to the heart – finding […]
The other day someone asked me why I love to do this work. Isn’t it difficult and stressful? They asked. I answered yes, of course at moments, but the payoff of watching someone truly come back to themselves is priceless. When they gather the courage to move through the griefwork, changing unhealthy behaviors and allowing […]
