There are moments when our reactions seem to take over before we even realize what’s happening. One minute you’re in a conversation, and the next—you’ve snapped defensively, shut down completely, interrupted without meaning to, or jumped in to fix something that wasn’t really yours to fix. It’s only later, when the moment has passed, that […]
Shame is one of the most powerful and isolating emotions we experience. It thrives in secrecy, making us question our worth, our choices, and even our identity. While some forms of shaming are obvious—like outright insults or public humiliation—others are much sneakier. The subtle, insidious ways people shame us can be just as damaging (if […]
Growth doesn’t just change you—it changes the way you relate to the world around you. And one of the hardest parts of personal growth is realizing that not everyone will grow with you. This week on the podcast, we explored what happens when you start to notice the distance between you and people who were […]
Why Do We Cling to Someone’s Potential? Most of us have, at some point, held onto a version of someone that doesn’t really exist—not in the present, at least. We see their potential, what they could be, if only they would just try harder, make different choices, or commit to their own growth. We tell […]
We’ve all done it—let something slide, brushed off a comment that stung, or convinced ourselves that “it’s not a big deal.” Sometimes, we do it because we don’t want to deal with conflict. Other times, we tell ourselves we’re being “understanding” or “choosing our battles.” But when does keeping the peace become self-betrayal? And why […]
Have you ever found yourself carefully choosing your words—not just to express yourself, but to make sure the other person doesn’t get upset? Maybe you soften your truth, sugarcoat your boundaries, or avoid a hard conversation altogether because you just can’t handle their reaction. This isn’t just people-pleasing. This is emotional management, and it’s exhausting. […]
Have you ever paused to question why you make the decisions you do? Are they driven by what you truly want and need, or are they shaped by fear—fear of conflict, rejection, or even disappointing someone? Decisions are a fundamental part of life, yet many of us unknowingly make choices rooted in people-pleasing, avoiding risks, […]
Have you ever stopped to wonder why your inner critic is so loud? Why it feels natural to blame yourself, hold yourself to impossible standards, or replay your mistakes over and over? If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with being our harshest critic, and understanding where this comes from […]
It’s natural to want the best for the people we care about—our friends, family, and loved ones. We want to see them happy, healthy, and thriving. However, in our eagerness to help, we often fall into the trap of thinking we know what’s best for them. This belief can lead us to try to control […]
Growing up, many of us are taught that love means being there for our family no matter what, sacrificing our own needs, and always stepping in to help, even at the cost of our own well-being. While these messages often come from a place of care, they can also lead to a lifetime of blurred […]
