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The Cost of Keeping the Peace: Why We Excuse Unhealthy Behavior
We’ve all done it—let something slide, brushed off a comment that stung, or convinced ourselves that “it’s not a big deal.” Sometimes, we do it because we don’t want to deal with conflict. Other times, we tell ourselves we’re being “understanding” or “choosing our battles.” But when does keeping the peace become self-betrayal? And why […]
Why We Try to Manage Other People’s Feelings (And How to Stop)
Have you ever found yourself carefully choosing your words—not just to express yourself, but to make sure the other person doesn’t get upset? Maybe you soften your truth, sugarcoat your boundaries, or avoid a hard conversation altogether because you just can’t handle their reaction. This isn’t just people-pleasing. This is emotional management, and it’s exhausting. […]
Are Your Decisions Guided by Fear or True Alignment?
Have you ever paused to question why you make the decisions you do? Are they driven by what you truly want and need, or are they shaped by fear—fear of conflict, rejection, or even disappointing someone? Decisions are a fundamental part of life, yet many of us unknowingly make choices rooted in people-pleasing, avoiding risks, […]
Why Are You So Hard on Yourself?
Have you ever stopped to wonder why your inner critic is so loud? Why it feels natural to blame yourself, hold yourself to impossible standards, or replay your mistakes over and over? If this resonates with you, you’re not alone. Many of us struggle with being our harshest critic, and understanding where this comes from […]
Knowing When to Step Back: Why We Can’t Always Decide What’s Best for Someone Else
It’s natural to want the best for the people we care about—our friends, family, and loved ones. We want to see them happy, healthy, and thriving. However, in our eagerness to help, we often fall into the trap of thinking we know what’s best for them. This belief can lead us to try to control […]
When Family Teaches Us the Wrong Kind of Love: Understanding Blurred Boundaries and Rescuing Behaviors
Growing up, many of us are taught that love means being there for our family no matter what, sacrificing our own needs, and always stepping in to help, even at the cost of our own well-being. While these messages often come from a place of care, they can also lead to a lifetime of blurred […]
How Damaging Behaviors Hurt Relationships—and Ourselves
Trust is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, whether it’s with a partner, friend, or even yourself. When trust is compromised, relationships suffer—and so does our self-concept. This week on the podcast, I explore how certain damaging behaviors can erode trust in our relationships and how, if we’re the ones engaging in these behaviors, it […]
Why Manipulation is So Hard to See—And Why Others Might Not Believe You
When we think of manipulation, we often imagine it as something obvious—a controlling boss, a domineering partner, or a friend who constantly makes you feel guilty. But the truth is, manipulation is rarely so clear-cut. It’s subtle, insidious, and often so well-disguised that it can be almost impossible to see, especially when you’re the one […]
The Hidden Roadblock: Self-Sabotage and the Fear of Deserving Good Things
We’ve all heard the term “self-sabotage,” but what does it really mean, and why do we do it? At its core, self-sabotage is about engaging in behaviors or thoughts that prevent us from achieving our goals or living the life we desire. One of the most subtle yet powerful forms of self-sabotage stems from a […]
Why Do We Feel Uncomfortable When Others Set Healthy Boundaries?
Understanding the Discomfort Have you ever felt a pang of discomfort or even resentment when someone sets a healthy boundary with you? You’re not alone…even as you are working on setting your own!This reaction is more common than you might think and can stem from a variety of sources deeply rooted in our past experiences […]
