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You Can’t Be Honest When You’re Bracing for Impact
We all want to be emotionally honest. To speak up when something hurts, to ask for what we need, to be seen and understood for who we really are. But here’s the truth: honesty doesn’t happen in a vacuum. You can’t be emotionally honest when you’re constantly bracing for criticism, correction, or shutdown. And you […]
Why It’s So Hard to Be Emotionally Honest – Even with Safe People
Emotional honesty sounds like such a simple concept. Tell the truth about how you feel. Share what’s going on. Be open, be real. But for so many of us, the truth is more complicated than that. Even when we’re around safe people – the ones who’ve shown us they’re steady, kind, and trustworthy, it can […]
Where in Your Life Do You Feel Safe to Be Yourself?
It’s a simple question—but not always an easy one to answer: Where in your life do you feel truly safe to be yourself? Not tolerated. Not “accepted as long as you stay agreeable.” Not just included. But safe. Safe to speak up. Safe to rest. Safe to not have it all together. Safe to tell […]
You Were Never Meant to Do This Alone
Why Support Isn’t Just Nice to Have – It’s What Makes Courage Possible We often talk about self-belief like it’s something you build in isolation. Just try harder, think more positively, do the work. And yes, there’s effort involved. But what’s often missing from that picture is belonging: feeling truly supported, seen, and accepted by […]
When You’re Tired and Still Saying Yes: The Hidden Cost of Overfunctioning
There’s a quiet kind of burnout that creeps in slowly, one boundary-less day at a time.It doesn’t always come from major life events or overwhelming trauma.Sometimes, it comes from saying “yes” when we’re tired.From taking on just one more thing, because we feel like we should. From holding everything together so well on the outside […]
The Quiet Ways We Abandon Ourselves (And How to Start Showing Up Again)
You wouldn’t expect a friend to run all day on an empty tank and still be kind, calm, and focused. So why do you expect it of yourself? If you’ve ever found yourself snapping at someone you care about, crying in the car, or lying awake at night wondering why you feel so disconnected or […]
When You Feel Far from Yourself
There are seasons where we feel grounded and clear. Where our breath feels steady and our decisions come from a calm place. Where we’re in tune with what we need, and the world—even when hard—feels navigable. And then there are seasons like this one. Where the noise gets louder. Where the world feels heavy and […]
When Shame Makes You Hustle for Your Worth
Why You Overdo, Overthink, and Overextend—Even When You’re Tired of It There’s a kind of tired that no amount of sleep can fix. It’s the exhaustion that comes from constantly trying to prove you’re enough – by being helpful, agreeable, accommodating, or successful. It’s the burnout that creeps in when you say yes out of […]
Your Body Knows First: Why So Many of Our Reactions Are Survival-Based
There are moments when our reactions seem to take over before we even realize what’s happening. One minute you’re in a conversation, and the next—you’ve snapped defensively, shut down completely, interrupted without meaning to, or jumped in to fix something that wasn’t really yours to fix. It’s only later, when the moment has passed, that […]
The Subtle Ways People Shame You (and How to Shut It Down)
Shame is one of the most powerful and isolating emotions we experience. It thrives in secrecy, making us question our worth, our choices, and even our identity. While some forms of shaming are obvious—like outright insults or public humiliation—others are much sneakier. The subtle, insidious ways people shame us can be just as damaging (if […]
